Writing is tough, there is no doubt about that. What makes it tougher?
The naysayers. The critics. The unbelievers.
You’ve worked so hard to put your written word out there, and someone comes along and says it’s terrible.
Maybe you’ve told your friends or family you are going to be a writer and they just look at you funny or ask how you will support yourself with writing.
Perhaps you spent countless hours on research for an article, only to have someone challenge your facts and attempt to discredit you.
It’s a definite writer’s block, the block of dealing with critical people.
While sometimes criticism is warranted, many times it is not. Sometimes you are just dealing with a bully. But really, it’s often not as bad as you think.
For as many critics you have, I’m willing to bet that you have more fans.
I am guessing you probably have more cheerleaders than naysayers. We forget that because that one person who said something disagreeable stands out in our minds and makes us feel bad.
Here’s the thing: It isn’t always about you.
There are a few scenarios that may be happening that doesn’t have anything to do with your work.
The person who criticizes you may not understand what you are trying to say. Everyone takes in information differently, and they may be misinterpreting your ideas. They may not be at the same place that you are at right now in your journey. They may have strong beliefs that they feel they must force onto others. But it does not have to be forced upon you.
Dealing with naysayers takes a thick skin, so to speak. Try to keep things in perspective.
- You won’t please everyone- focus on serving your fans.
- Take in legitimate critiques and use it to improve your writing.
- Ask what you can do to make it better.
- Don’t take things too personally- some people enjoy being critical and it is not necessarily reflective of your talents or your writing style.
- If people don’t believe you can make a career out of writing, prove them wrong. You know the cliché “Actions speak louder than words” – well, they do!
- Be gracious- others are entitled to their opinion- you don’t have to agree but you don’t have to fight about it either.
- Never be rude back- you lower your standards and integrity that way. If you are angry about it, don’t reply and move forward.
Never let a criticizer make you give up. Take it in, take a breath, then let it go and keep working on your craft.
Remember that you have magical writing gifts. Not everyone may see this, but they don’t have to. You are the one that has to believe it.
Keep Crushing Blocks!